Dating my doctor
Should she have cut it as soon as she felt that she was developing feelings for the guy? should she continue seeing the guy, enjoy dating him as much as she can while she can, and not worry about the outcome of the situation too much, without thinking about the future too much?I don’t think any woman can find an absolute and unequivocal answer to this question, and I frankly don’t believe that such an answer exists, as it would heavily depend on that specific woman’s goals and needs at that specific point in her life.An older woman might have the greatest time of her life dating an energetic, exciting, attractive young man, but she is also likely to feel that she is wasting her time being with a younger guy and knowing that it is not going to turn into a long-term relationship, instead of pursuing a relationship with a man with whom she could establish a family and have children in the nearest future as the biology would dictate to a woman who is aware that her biological clock is ticking.But then again – not every woman wants family and children.That higher sex drive translates, among other things, into being more direct with men.The more mature women may be interested in dating a younger guy out of sheer curiosity of what it feels like dating someone younger, and also because usually younger guys are more “agile,” active, energetic.An intense physical affair might just be something she needs to enjoy your life and to be distracted from her previous break-up or disappointments in men.
Others consider the above approach to life to be irresponsible or even reckless, and feel much more comfortable planning their life out, including their love life.
Sometimes the answer is more nuanced than normal or requires cutting through a Gordian knot of related issues.
But, occasionally, I’ll get a letter from a reader that requires a deeper and more thorough dive than the usual request for advice.
Often, a younger guy and an older woman would “decide” upfront that their relationship will be casual, and that they should not expect any commitment from each other, because they know that the end of that relationship is inevitable because of the seemingly irreconcilable age difference.
Ironically however, as their relationship is not clouded by fears and complications of commitment, long-term relationships and related issues.